2010 had good points and bad points. As I start 2011 the kids are both in school now, I've gained too much weight and I hope for a better year than 2010 was to us. Guess we'll see soon enough. To wrap up 2010 we started Zach on a program in school to help him figure out how to be less fidgety in class. He can focus on the work but plays with items and for some odd reason has taken on screaming in the boys lavatory.
No clue why the boy who doesn't like loud sounds himself would find himself in the boys restroom screaming. That one still has me scratching my head. Only thought I have mustard is that he liked the echo in there. Needless to say when the behavior specialist asked to work with him we jumped at the chance. I would rather find a way to get him to work his best now than let him get to developed and find more of a fight to figure out how to help him.
This week was our first at home meeting. Our weekly focus is on Developing a Positive Parent/Child relationship and Confidence Building. I find that I learn better by typing/writing things out in addition to what I've been reading. I thought it might be good to put it up here so if someone who doesn't' have this opportunity is searching for how to deal with something similar this might just help them too. :)
Developing a Positive Parent/Child relationship and Confidence Building
~Playing with your child is a powerful way to get to know your child better. If your child can lead the play interaction and you can support and find interest in their play, you and your child can build a strong positive relationship.
~Try to let your child direct the play.
~Observe and comment on what they are doing. For example, if your child is playing trucks you might say "So you are filling the truck with dirt."
~Even if your child is having a feeling you don't like, let it be expressed. It helps you see your child's perspective.
This: "You sound like you were really mad"
Not this: "It's not right to say you hate someone."
Display Their Work
~When your child brings home work or art from school display it on a shelf, bulletin board or the refrigerator to show them you are proud of their accomplishment.
Send a Positive Message
~Leave a surprise note for your child that sends a message that they are loved and that points out their positive traits. Write a note with a smiling face or other drawing, with the words "I love you", or another, similar message ("I am proud that you are my son!" or "You are so much fun!"). Put the note under a pillow, in a pocket or in their lunch box. You can also decorate your note with a sticker. What a surprise!
Give Your Child Responsibilities
~One of the main ways children develop self-confidence and internalize values is through helping with family chores.
1. Choose tasks your child has already shown an interest in.
2. Make sure the chore is developmentally appropriate for your child's age and ability.
3. Spend time teaching them how you want it done by telling, showing and practicing.
4. Praise their efforts and successes!
Hoping all this will help him and build an even stronger family unit than we already have. I hope this will help someone else in need if not today someone in the future. :D
Next weeks topic: Self-Control
What I have taken away from 2010 is that life is far to short, hug a great big long hug to those that you love and that love you and help them be the best tiny humans they can be because with hope they will grow in to fantastic grown ups. HUGS from me to you! Thank you for stopping by.